As you probably know, I have a degree in Psychology. To date, this knowledge is the most applied and useful in my escorting business. It helps me to understand people and to make them understand me, to survive in critical situations, to feel the right move, resist stress, enjoy the moments and get what I want (not always, but quite often). Why am I making this propaganda? Just because I have a need to share something good with others. There are a lot of people with another type of thinking: if you find something good, keep it to yourself, don’t share. It’s understandable: we have some competitive pattern of behavior. Most of people deep inside want to be better than others: have faster car, bigger house, smarter kids, more beautiful wife etc.. This can be a separate topic for another post, but what I’m trying to say is that some of us have type of thinking: “If you want to keep it good, keep it in secret”, another – “If you want to keep it good, use it and share”. I’m the second type. This is the reason I will start to share my psychological knowledges and notes with you, ladies and gentlemen.
Let me start with the most popular name that even kids already heard: Freud. Most of you know his conceptions, approximately, and I’m quite sure everybody heard that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. But what I want to discuss with you, is how Mr Freud’s theories show them up in escorting industry. It will be funny and easy for understanding, let’s go.
According Freud’s model of a personality, we consist of three levels: Id, Ego and Super-Ego. Id – is all your basic instincts and desires: eat, sleep, fight, fuck. Id is the basis of our escorting industry: lust. This is the rush that you start to feel in your balls, the demonic voice that whispering into your ear: “Go and fuck this woman. Go and fuck all those women!” Id is the itchiness that finally makes a sexual beast out of decent family man. Very often different ‘life-style’ coaches say something like: “You should always listen to your heart only. You should always do what you wanna do.” In this case Id would take all the control over our personality. If I would follow just my desires, let’s imagine, what would happen to me? Starting with the fact that I LOVE chocolate, I would eat kilos of it every day. My teeth would be soon destroyed, my body would become overweight, my face would cover with acnes… To fight the aversion to my appearance I would start to take antidepressants. As much as I want. I would become addicted soon, I wouldn’t work, spend my savings fast and finally find out myself on the street, fat and ugly, with no money, no family, no friends, no customers. Completely broken and depressed. Amazing finale. This is what would happen if we listened to our desires only: our Id would be in charge.
But, guys, good news: some where there, on the top level of our personality there’s sitting Super-Ego. A snobbish boring moralist, the one that says you with your first teacher’s voice “Be a good boy! Behave! Wash your hands! Be polite! Make your bed! Keep your dick in your pants! Hands over the blanket! Bad boys will burn in Hell!” Super-Ego consist of all those laws, restrictions, parents’ and school’s rules we’ve met on our way. This is the part that can makes you feel guilty even if you’re innocent.
And then between these two extremes (Id and Super-Ego) there is Ego – it’s a nice guy who’s always trying to find compromise. He wants everybody be happy, so he’s trying to find the way to keep under one roof Id and Super-Ego. And, actually, this is where escort-industry really begins. For example, you have a sexual need that your Id claims (“I wanna fuck! Other women need my semen!”), but your Super-Ego is strongly against (“You’d better not fuck, you, son of a bitch!”), finding the reasons why you should not do it (The God says “Don’t commit adultery!” Lust is one of seven sins!) then there’s a work for Ego, that finally leads you, for example, to my web-sites (“Hei guys, I think I can find compromise: Monica can take care of your desires, and nobody will never know about that, even God himself. Wonderful, isn’t it? Or we can just fap on her sexy pictures, good too.”) The stronger your Ego is, the stronger the balance between your beast and priest, the more stable and mentally healthy person you are.
This was simple Freud with his personality-structure. I don’t touch theory of conscious and unconscious in this topic, post can be too long, maybe next time. Psychology is important part of our lives, of escorting life particular, and if you find this type of topics interesting, I will be happy to tell you more in the next posts: why do you chose this or that girl, why do you enjoy some specific sexual things, why you promise yourself never to do it again but finally come back, how to behave when you meet friends on your way to escort’s apartment, how to stop worrying to be caught, how to get maximum pleasure etc. Amount of subjects is inexhaustible, please, give me your feedback what is the most interesting for you and I’ll try to make it soon.
Be happy, keep your Id under control and don’t be afraid of Super-Ego: it’s not as scary as it’s trying to look like.